Hello! “Selamat Datang!” – This means “welcome” in my native language of Malaysia where I am originally from. I’m so glad you landed on my page! Hi, I’m Raj. For over 17 years I’ve been helping individuals, couples with counseling and therapy, and post-divorcees find new hope and healing. I’ve been blessed and fortunate to have helped numerous people gain:
- Skills for a happier and more harmonious home
- A sense of closure on their past relationship and fresh hope for a bright future
- Renewed bonds of trust and love even if it seemed hopeless at one point
- Restoring and finding a new identity and purpose for their lives
- Learning new coping skills while increasing tools to combat anxiety and depression
Tapestry of Life Made from Pains and Struggles
Tapestry is a whole material made from many individuals parts interconnected through the art of weaving and threading each part into a whole material. The back side of this tapestry can reveal a mess with lots of jumbled threads, knots and cuts. But these are part of the important workmanship which keeps together the tapestry and ones which provide the beautiful creative picture and image on the other side as an awe-inspiring final product.
Our lives are a tapestry made up of many part parts woven together. Our lives and all its experiences are contributing parts to a whole life of finding meaning and purpose. Our lives take us on a journey of many experiences which are positives and negatives on many levels. However, each experience, each chapter and each struggle are a building block or a piece of cloth that we use to sew the tapestry of our life.
Marital Issues – Relationship
Are you are struggling with a distant or hurting marriage or relationship? Are you separated or divorced and now suffering the pain of tattered identity and loneliness? Were you blindsided or caught off guard by a sudden unexpected news of an announcement that doomed your relationship and/or marriage? Are you’re coming out of a marriage (the bitter kind or the friendly kind) and entering the divorce world and now wants to find ways of finding new purpose, direction and renewed joy? As a result, do you struggle with pain, remorse, guilt, shame, anger, disappointment and a sense of failure? I want you to know there is hope for a better relationship and future, I am here to help you do that. I also specialize in divorce care and divorce recovery. I want you to know that when one chapter closes, another new and fresh chapter can be set into motion. It’s time for a new beginning! Your life story has not reached its final chapter. Your tapestry is not done!
Post Divorce – Divorce Care and Divorce Recovery
Having experienced a divorce, are you suffering the pain and struggles of a broken vow, a broken dream, a broken relationship or a broken life? Are you facing challenges with the effects of this brokenness where you are struggling with self-identity issues, desperately trying to find relief or struggling with short-temperedness, anger issues and/or being unable to sleep at night? If any of these relate to you, I am here to help you. I have had my fair share of brokenness and I know your pain and struggles. I have been there, and I know how to get you to a safe and secure place. You have suffered enough, and it is time to stop and learn to begin a new life.
A danger here is if we continue brooding over this pain and struggles without doing anything with it may make it worse. If we try to drive forward by constantly looking in the rear-view mirror is not only unsafe but counter-productive. If you are ready to make some changes to move forward, let us take a journey of trying to find meaning and purpose through all of these and work on discovering a new sense of identity, hope, healing and restoration.
I will not take you down a path of “looking for that needle lost in the haystack”. We will let the “lost needle” remain in the haystack. Needles are cheap and you can get a new one at the Dollar Shop. Furthermore, there are other ways to thread through your broken pieces of life and relationship and make a beautiful tapestry out of the complex combination of these struggles while creating new meaning, hope and healing.
I help people recover and move past their past failures and struggles and guide them through a multi-modal therapeutic approach, using only what is applicable to each individual client. I can and want to help you turn your failures, pain and disappointments into victories and meaningful resolution and positive outcomes. I find my passion closely knitted to helping people overcome their pain and struggles and assist them acquire a new sense of redemption and self-identity.
My 17 years of experience as a mental health therapist has taken me on a journey of helping people with bruised self-image and identity and those with tattered image and identity that led them to the brink of actual failed suicide attempt. I know the pain and struggles, and I can help you. Uncontrolled mental health issues can lead to severe depression, anxiety and a state of hopelessness and helplessness. Allow me to use my experience, knowledge and insight to guide you through some challenging steps towards a journey of self-discovery, redemption and recovery of lost valuables.
Life and its challenges can lead to a distortion of self-image which then tries to corrupt your self-identity. I am here to help with my experience, education, training and insights on how to navigate past the negatives and regain and recover a new sense of identity, image and destiny. I can help you show ways to disconnect from the unwanted and destructive parts and reconnect with only what needs to be reconnected. I can show you ways to re-write your new chapter of life.
My line of work has also taken me to work in the ER of a hospital as a Psychiatric Emergency Services Consultant. Here I saw and helped numerous people struggling with brokenness and extreme hopelessness that led them to failed suicide attempts. Pain is real! But hope can be found and restored.
My Professional Certifications and Licensures
- Licensed Mental Health Counselor – LMHC-Florida State
- Licensed Professional Counselor – LPC-Virginia State
- Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor – LCPC-Nevada State
- Certified Substance Abuse Counselor – CSAC-Virginia State
- National Certified Counselor – NCC-Board Certified
- Approved Clinical Supervisor – ACS
If you are ready to enter a journey of finding hope, meaning and purpose and you want help with your pain and struggles while creating your own tapestry, call me for an appointment today or book online by clicking the website button below.