You Are Not Alone
You Are Not Alone
Does Any of This Sound Familiar?
I've spent years helping men understand and change these patterns. You don't have to shock me, impress me, or have everything figured out before you come in.
I've spent years helping men understand and change these patterns. You don't have to shock me, impress me, or have everything figured out before you come in.
Understanding the Cycle
Understanding the Cycle
Why Can't I Just Stop?
Because the behavior is usually only part of the story.
Pornography and sexual behavior can become connected to much more than sexual desire. For some men, it becomes a way of escaping stress. For others, loneliness, rejection, insecurity, boredom, anger, shame, or feeling like a failure can become part of the cycle.
Pornography and sexual behavior can become connected to much more than sexual desire. For some men, it becomes a way of escaping stress. For others, loneliness, rejection, insecurity, boredom, anger, shame, or feeling like a failure can become part of the cycle.
That's why simply trying harder often hasn't been enough. In therapy, we'll work on both sides of the problem: learning how to interrupt the behavior while also understanding what keeps driving you back to it.
That's why simply trying harder often hasn't been enough. In therapy, we'll work on both sides of the problem: learning how to interrupt the behavior while also understanding what keeps driving you back to it.
Therapist Credibility
Counseling That's Practical, Honest, and Focused on Real Change
I've worked with hundreds of men over the past 16 years around pornography, sexual behavior, relationships, intimacy, and related concerns.
We'll work to understand your particular patterns, identify what makes you vulnerable to acting out, develop practical strategies for responding differently, and address the emotional, relational, and spiritual issues that may be keeping the cycle going.
The goal isn't simply to help you stop doing something. It's to help you build a life in which you no longer need to keep escaping into it.
Jim Urban, LMHC
In-Person in Fleming Island • Online Throughout Florida
What Will We Work On Together?
Counseling is shaped around your specific patterns, relationships, values, and goals—not a one-size-fits-all label.
Pornography
Repeated porn use, escalation, failed attempts to stop, triggers, and urges.
Repeated porn use, escalation, failed attempts to stop, triggers, and urges.
Compulsive Sexual Behavior
Sexual behavior that feels increasingly difficult to control or inconsistent with the life you want.
Sexual behavior that feels increasingly difficult to control or inconsistent with the life you want.
Secrecy & Dishonesty
Breaking patterns of hiding, minimizing, deleting, lying, and compartmentalizing.
Infidelity & Betrayal
Addressing sexual acting out that has damaged a marriage or committed relationship.
Intimacy & Relationships
Learning to tolerate vulnerability and build healthier emotional and sexual intimacy.
Learning to tolerate vulnerability and build healthier emotional and sexual intimacy.
Relapse Prevention
Identifying triggers, creating accountability, and building habits that support long-term change.
Christian Counseling
Christian Counseling
Looking for Christian Counseling for Porn or Sexual Addiction?
Identifying triggers, creating accountability, and building habits that support long-term change.
Identifying triggers, creating accountability, and building habits that support long-term change.
You may be carrying guilt over choices you've made, shame about what you've become, fear about what would happen if people really knew you, or frustration because you've prayed and promised God you would stop—and then found yourself doing it again.
You may be carrying guilt over choices you've made, shame about what you've become, fear about what would happen if people really knew you, or frustration because you've prayed and promised God you would stop—and then found yourself doing it again.
My biblical and theological training allows us to take those concerns seriously. We can talk honestly about repentance, grace, integrity, temptation, forgiveness, sexuality, marriage, and spiritual formation without reducing your struggle to simply “pray harder and try harder.”
My biblical and theological training allows us to take those concerns seriously. We can talk honestly about repentance, grace, integrity, temptation, forgiveness, sexuality, marriage, and spiritual formation without reducing your struggle to simply “pray harder and try harder.”
Christian integration is available when you want it. It isn't something I force on clients.
Christian integration is available when you want it. It isn't something I force on clients.
Marriage and Partner Impact
Marriage and Partner Impact
Has Pornography or Sexual Behavior Damaged Your Marriage?
Recovery isn't only about stopping a behavior.
When there has been secrecy, pornography, infidelity, or other sexual betrayal, the partner who discovers it may be dealing with anger, confusion, grief, fear, and a profound loss of trust.
I also work with couples navigating the aftermath of sexual betrayal. Drawing from my training in the Gottman Method and other couples approaches, we can work toward honesty, accountability, repairing trust, healthier communication, and—when both partners desire it—rebuilding emotional and sexual intimacy.
Your spouse's healing matters too.
Your spouse's healing matters too.
What Happens When We Get Started?
You don't need to arrive with a perfect explanation for why this keeps happening. Early sessions will quickly clarify the pattern: what tends to trigger it, what happens before and after, what you've already tried, how the behavior has affected your life and relationships, and what you want to change.
From there, counseling will focus on practical strategies for interrupting the cycle, understanding the emotional and relational factors underneath it, strengthening honesty and accountability, and building healthier ways of responding to urges, stress, loneliness, shame, and other vulnerabilities.
I provide an active and optimistic approach to counseling: you get greater understanding, practical tools, and specific work to carry into life outside the office.
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