Someone cheated – is our relationship over?
Is your partnership experiencing a crisis? Has the relationship recently experienced infidelity? Has cheating or lack of commitment gotten in the way of making lasting, meaningful relationships? Was this a one-time fling, or a longstanding affair? Do you feel lost, hurt, and unsure how to make things right?
You are not alone.
Nearly 1 in 7 couples experience an incident of cheating or infidelity at some point (Labrecque & Whisman, 2017), which is why it is one of the most common reasons for why couples seek counselling.
These experiences are so painful because human relationships are founded on fidelity, the trust that each partner will only engage in romantic or sexual behavior with one another. When that trust is broken, people can experience intense feelings of betrayal, sadness, fear, and confusion.
Some couples are able to make amends in the aftermath of something like an affair, many people struggle to rebuild the trust. This leads to all sorts of difficulties, such as:
- Feeling skeptical and unbelieving of your partner
- Having self-doubt or low self-worth
- Frequent checking-in, “stalking,” or monitoring location
- Worry and anxiety when they leave for an extended period of time
- Quizzing friends or family members about your partner
- Decreased feelings of vulnerability and intimacy
Uplift Counseling was founded because we believe every relationship deserves a second chance – including yours. If you and your partner are interested in starting relationship crisis counseling, contact us today. We help couples and families from all over the Orange Park area – people just like you. To learn more about what this type of counseling focuses on, read on!
What is relationship crisis counseling?
Relationship crisis counseling is designed to quickly address issues in the relationship that contribute to the distress. Similar to couples counseling and divorce/discernment counseling, relationship crisis counseling involves working as a team with your counselor to find solutions and make repairs.
Here is how it works.
When couples experience difficulties such as infidelity, one or both partners may be struggling with having one or more of their relational needs met:
Support is all about trust, stability, and assuredness. Often, incidents of cheating can lead the relationship to feel shaky and uncertain – if he/she could do that, what makes me believe they won’t do it again? Much like trying to rebuild a house with an uncertain foundation, couples who struggle with feeling supported often have difficulty moving forward towards a common goal.
Safety is an absolute must. When affairs lead to loss of safety through threats and hurtful words, this can severely damage your bond. And, if the relationship feels unsafe, abusive, or controlling, no healing and growth can happen.
Many partners feel a loss of Value in the relationship – she/he must not care about me, must not think my feelings matter, etc. On the flipside, some partners who cheat may do so out of feeling undervalued or undesired. The relationship started off strong – there is a reason you came together in the first place – and that strength, that “spark,” comes from deep feelings of respect and value for one another.
Finally, feelings of Intimacy can be jeopardized by cheating and infidelity. This can include anything from sexuality and physical desire to emotional intimacy and openness with one another. Therapy is particularly good for helping couples rebuild those feelings of closeness and vulnerability, which is why relationship crisis counseling is so effective.
Relationship crisis counseling provides a space for you and your partner to do three important things: identify your individual needs, discuss how what happened affected the relationship, and make a plan moving forward.
Step 1: Identify Your Individual Needs
Therapy provides a safe (and completely confidential) space for the two of you to have open communication with one another. This allows for honest and authentic conversations to occur about your needs and how those have (or have not) been met.
Step 2: Talk About What Happened
You and your partner will have ample opportunity to talk about what happened, how it affected each of you, and how it changed the relationship. Therapists are able to keep the conversation fair and balanced, that way no one is made to feel ashamed or humiliated.
Step 3: Make a Plan
Once it is “all on the table,” we work as a team to sort things out. Depending on your needs and goal as a couple, we offer several counseling options in addition to crisis intervention:
- Couples Counseling
- Intensive therapy for rebuilding and revitalizing the relationship
- Short-term and long-term options available
- Couples Workshops
- Education and skills-based training for couples
- Individual Counseling
- One-on-one therapy for individual goals
- Designed for relationship issues as well as anxiety, depression, and other emotional difficulties
- Short-term and long-term options available
- Sex Addiction Counseling
- One-on-one therapy for sex-related addictions
- Divorce / Discernment Counseling
- Supportive counseling designed for helping couples make decisions about divorce
No matter how difficult things may be right now, we know there is hope.
We offer therapy for individuals and couples from all over the Orange Park area – people just like you! If you are ready to get started, don’t wait.
Contact us today, let’s get started.
So if we decide to go with therapy, what would that look like?
Our mission is to support the two of you in whatever decision you make together.
Many couples will choose to transition from relationship crisis counseling to more in-depth work, such as couples counseling or divorce/discernment counseling.
We try to make the counseling process as efficient and helpful as possible for our clients. Each session is completely confidential and specifically tailored to meet your goals as efficiently and effectively as possible. We have couples counseling specialists – highly trained in the Gottman Method as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy – and so our treatment focuses on:
- Building “Love Maps”
- Developing fondness and admiration
- Learning to turn towards, instead of away
- Adapting a more positive perspective
- Managing conflict
- Pursuing life dreams
- Creating shared meaning
- Fostering trust
- Establishing shared commitment
We offer four formats of treatment to best fit your needs and schedule:
Most people do well meeting for Regular Sessions, meaning meeting every week or so for hour-long appointments until we reach your goals.
However, some couples prefer to spend more time dialoguing and feel that “an hour just isn’t enough time,” and so we also offer Extended Sessions for that purpose.
Some couples feel that their relationship is going relatively well, and their sense is that they would prefer to do a single “Tune Up” appointment. These are designed to help couples work through minor issues and provide enhancement to the relationship, without an expectation of continued treatment unless desired.
Finally, we offer one, two, and three-day Marathon sessions for couples who want a quick result, are in crisis, or just plain don’t have the time to see us weekly for 2-4 months.
If you and your loved one struggle with connection, if the relationship isn’t “what it used to be,” or if you simply desire a deeper and more meaningful marriage – don’t wait! Uplift Counseling Center was founded because every relationship deserves to be taken to the next level.
Contact us today and, together, we can get you there.
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Our office is conveniently located on 2233 Park Avenue (US-17), Building 500 Suite 103, Orange Park, FL 32073.