Help! Our relationship is falling apart!
The process of going through a divorce can be difficult, but making the decision can be even more challenging.
Any relationship that means anything will cause pain if, or when, it ends.
You don’t have to go through this alone.
Here at the Uplift Counseling Center, we want to make your decision and transition easier.
We are here for you.
You may feel as though you have reached a crossroad in your relationship: should you stay, or should you go? Should the marriage continue, or is it time to part ways? Is this still the person you fell in love with?
You may have decided that the best option is to proceed with divorce or separation, in which case your questions might differ. How will the relationship change? How will family members respond? If children are involved, how will you help them through that transition?
All of these questions are good questions, and all of them can be worked through in the safety and support of divorce and discernment counseling. If you are interested in getting your relationship back on track, contact us today to learn how we can help. We help couples and families from all over the Orange Park area – people just like you. To learn more about divorce and discernment counseling, read on!
Why do we need divorce and discernment counseling?
Decisions about making changes in the relationship are rarely easy to make.
Many couples find themselves constantly arguing and fighting, unable to come to an agreement or understanding. Some are overwhelmed with feelings of anticipation, insecurity, and worry about the future. And others become cut off, distant, and withdrawn from one another, refusing to talk about it.
These unhealthy ways of reacting to one another can lead to some of the toxic consequences of divorce and breakup, such as:
- Acting to seek “revenge” on your partner
- Gossip or speaking negatively about one’s former partner
- Alienation or emotional distancing from children with one or both parents
- Traumatic shock caused by cheating and infidelity
- Anxiety or depression
- Dependence on alcohol, drugs, or sex to numb the distress
- Anger towards new partners and/or stepsiblings
If you and your partner are struggling with decisions around divorce, separation, or breakup, let us help. Contact us today to learn more about how our divorce and discernment counseling will work for you!
What is divorce and discernment counseling?
Divorce and discernment counseling (sometimes called divorce therapy) is a focused form of therapy for couples and families dealing with decisions about divorce or separation. The primary focus involves understanding the situation, identifying options, making a choice, and dealing with the consequences.
First and foremost, both parties must have a good awareness of the situation and understand the perspectives of one another. This step requires effective communication as a couple, and so much of the beginning of counseling will involve building more effective skills for working together as a team. One or both partners may feel confused, scared, angry, resentful, or lost during this difficult time in the relationship, and so here at Uplift Counseling we strive to first focus on mutual understanding.
Now that the two of you have built some shared understanding of what is going on, you are ready to identify different options for your relationship:
- Do the two of you just need a break?
- Are you interested in starting couples counseling to repair the relationship?
- Is divorce the healthiest choice?
- Do you need more time to think and decide?
- Should one or both of you start your own individual counseling or sex addiction counseling?
Now you have the options – and the freedom – to make a choice. This is such an important decision, one that should not be taken lightly, or made out of rage and pain. Our goal is for the two of you to agree on the choice, make a plan, and commit to respecting and valuing one another regardless of the outcome.
Finally, counseling can help you, your partner, and your family deal with the consequences that come with the decision you have chosen. For example, divorce can often make children (and parents) feel overwhelmed, anxious, and fearful of what will happen. Some may experience sadness or grief about changes in the family unit, while others may become angry or irritated. These issues are best dealt with in the supportive environment offered by a licensed professional.
This is why we offer therapy for couples from all over the Orange Park area. If you are ready to get started, contact us today – we would love to hear from you. We provide couples counseling for partnerships just like yours, and we would love to work with you!
So if we decide to go with therapy, what would that look like?
We try to make the counseling process as efficient and helpful as possible for my clients. Each session is completely confidential and specifically tailored to meet your goals as efficiently and effectively as possible. We have couples counseling specialists – highly trained in the Gottman Method as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy – and so our treatment focuses on:
- Building “Love Maps”
- Developing fondness and admiration
- Learning to turn towards, instead of away
- Adapting a more positive perspective
- Managing conflict
- Pursuing life dreams
- Creating shared meaning
- Fostering trust
- Establishing shared commitment
We offer four formats of treatment to best fit your needs and schedule:
Most people do well meeting for Regular Sessions, meaning meeting every week or so for hour-long appointments until we reach your goals.
However, some couples prefer to spend more time dialoguing and feel that “an hour just isn’t enough time,” and so we also offer Extended Sessions for that purpose.
Some couples feel that their relationship is going relatively well, and their sense is that they would prefer to do a single “Tune Up” appointment. These are designed to help couples work through minor issues and provide enhancement to the relationship, without an expectation of continued treatment unless desired.
Finally, we offer one, two, and three-day Marathon sessions for couples who want a quick result, are in crisis, or just plain don’t have the time to see us weekly for 3-6 months.
If you and your loved one struggle with connection, if the relationship isn’t “what it used to be,” or if you simply desire a deeper and more meaningful marriage – don’t wait! Uplift Counseling Center was founded because every relationship deserves to be taken to the next level.
Contact us today and, together, we can get you there.
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Our office is conveniently located on 2233 Park Avenue (US-17), Building 500 Suite 103, Orange Park, FL 32073.